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A Guide to Easing the Anxieties of Being a Grown Up


Adulting is hard, we all know this. Especially if we are tired, hungover or sick but the world hasn’t stopped turning, and your mom isn’t around to feed you grapes and serve you meds. It’s also pretty scary because, y’know, debt, mortgages, college, getting a job, getting married (or not!), desperately trying to meet expectations and trying to struggle through while simultaneously creating the illusion that you know what you’re doing. Cue: anxiety.

It’s okay, we’ve all been there (or are there), and know that sometimes a little helping hand is needed to stop panic setting in. Here are my top tips for making adult life a little bit simpler.

Get control of your finances

This is the biggie. The one that makes all students and graduates tremble in their boots. Nobody really wants to take a good hard look at how much they owe post-college, right? Tough. Taking control of your debt, working out how you are going to pay back your loans and earning enough to survive is one key element to subdue anxieties. There are loads of options out there to make debt easier after college, such as Student Loan Forgiveness Obama Program, deferring your debt or simply consolidating your payments into smaller and more manageable chunks. There are professional services out there to help. But remember, you did the hard part when you chose to get yourself into debt and go to college in the first place. You’ve got this.

Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness may be the buzzword of the year, but it’s popular for a reason. Try and work in some time in your daily routine for some self-care; try yoga, meditation, pilates or time spent in nature – it’s whatever works for you! At its core, mindfulness is a way to change your overall outlook on life and to increase your ability to deal with stressful situations.




Not always as easy as it sounds, but not getting enough sleep is a surefire way to increase stress and anxieties. Try to schedule in at least seven hours of sleep per night, as this will give your mind a chance to workout all the things that have happened in the day, as well as repairing any physical damage done to your body!

Work on relationships

We are social creatures, and the relationships we enter into are big parts of our wellbeing. Be sure to keep in touch with the people you love, even when you are busy. This connection will put a smile on your face, which is key to keeping anxiety at bay, and will ensure that you always have a support network around you if the going gets tough. Happy relationships = happy people!

Eat well

Feeling stressed and anxious can throw our bodies completely out of whack, and can cause us to crave high-fat and sugary foods which, although satisfy the initial craving, can have long and lasting implications on the body. If you are feeling the strain, try to eat foods which are high in Vitamin B – science says that this vitamin is closely associated with good mental health!

I hope you enjoyed the post! What do you do to help ease your anxiety? Let me know! 🙂

Thanks for reading, as always <3

xoxo, Rae

May 8, 2017

Rachel’s Self Care Tips | Mental Health Mondays



Today’s guest blogger for the M.H.M. series is Rachel, from Rachel Rambling On. Please do go check out her blog and show her some love and support. <3 🙂

Mental health sufferers (myself included) often seek help through medication and talking therapies. This is wonderful. There is so much help out there for sufferers and that should be commended. However, medication may not be for everyone. There may be some people who cannot take medication for their mental illness. Obviously I am not a doctor and in my opinion whoever is suffering from a mental illness SHOULD seek professional; that being said, I would like to offer some advice on strategies that I have found help my mental illnesses alongside my medication and counselling.

1. Distractions. Are. Key. For me, whenever I feel an attack coming on, if possible I always reach for my phone and watch funny videos. It is often enough of a distraction to get me out of my ‘attack’ and focus on something else.

2. A hot drink. For me, a hot, sweet cup of tea works wonders when anxiety kicks in. Sip it slowly while thinking peaceful thoughts, preferably in a quiet place if possible. Just remember to keep your beverage caffeine free as caffeine can worsen some mental illness such as anxiety.

3. In the long term, taking up a physical activity could prove very beneficial. In my experience, when I was attending the gym and yoga classes regularly, my anxiety and depressive thoughts improved drastically. The idea of the gym or a class may be difficult for many people, but even starting with a home exercise DVD is an amazing start as it gives you something other than your thoughts to focus on.

4. Don’t underestimate the power of a long soak in the bath with a good book. Books transport me to another world. It is rare that I read a book and still worry about my life. Relax in the tub with your favourite novel and your troubles may feel 10000 miles away.
Just to reinstate what I said in the introduction, this is by no means a cure for mental illness. This is just a few things I do alongside my professional, medical help to deal with my mental illness.

The main focus of these points is the notion of self care – taking time out of your life to focus on yourself and your wellbeing. Please set aside some time for yourself each week, whether you suffer with a mental illness or not.

September 19, 2016

School vs Mental Health | Mental Health Mondays



Did you know that 1 in 4 people are affected by mental disorders? (Whether that be anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, etc.) That’s a pretty high number and mental health is quickly becoming one of the leading contributors to disability and ill-health worldwide – which is why I wanted to create this new series on my blog called “Mental Health Mondays”. I’ve had this idea since April 2016 and am not just starting to really move forward with it (definitely not taking credit for it/this idea/term, but would like to discuss mental health on my blog since I am an individual with an anxiety disorder, I thought the Mental Health Mondays has a good sound to it, and it’s a great way to start off your week in the right direction since some posts will be about self care + how to overcome mental health).

School is stressful, life is stressful, combine the two – and you probably have quite the struggle trying to juggle both, especially if either are interfering with your mental health.

Here are my tips to juggle school & your mental health, while trying to keep your sanity!

1.) Your mental health is more important.

During 6th grade, I was bullied a lot. The bullying was pretty bad that I avoided school quite frequently, telling my mom that I was sick and that I didn’t want to go to school – avoiding all of this school almost left me with a failing grade, and you know what? I would have much rather taken that bad grade than having to go to class and have my dignity stripped from me and my emotions toyed with. Bottom line: you come first in your life and so does your mental health – I’m definitely not trying to tell you to skip school all the time, but if you need to take a mental health day from school or work, do itYou will feel much better and refreshed to have time to yourself.

2.) A grade is just a grade.

I think that this is one of the most important things to remember while in school – a grade is just a grade, and a course is always able to be retaken if necessary. I don’t think that getting an A is worth stressing about, while it may be awesome to get that high of a grade – if it’s going to cost you your sanity, you don’t need to strive to get that high of a grade. A C is average (which is good) and I feel like most people forget that. Do the best that you can and don’t let idea of acing every test and assignment get to you.

3.) Taking breaks is okay.

If you are unable to juggle your mental health and your education (or other life events), I personally think that it’s okay to take a break from whatever you are unable to handle. You need to focus on yourself in order to start to feel better and if that means putting something else on hold, that’s what you need to do. Others should understand and support your decision and if they don’t, I suggest trying to explain your situation to them and have them look at it from your perspective.

4.) If you think you need to get help, get help.

Not everyone is able to cope on their own and if you’re struggling, I suggest seeking medical help, whether that be counseling or going the medication route – obviously with the recommendation from a doctor (go with what you feel comfortable with). Surround yourself with friends who understand what you’re going through and those who are supportive.


I’m not a professional, so please do take this post with a grain of salt because these are my opinions and experiences! I hope you enjoyed the post.

Thanks for reading, as always <3

Xoxo, Rae

September 12, 2016